Learning to love the skin you're in - Saabirah Lawrence #Featured

Welcome to the Asikara blog! Please introduce yourself.

Hi, I’m Saabirah, I normally introduce myself as a writer or content creator because it’s more interesting than saying I work in retail.  My blog is my space on the Internet that allows me to speak about the empowerment of self, wellness and my natural hair journey. 


We are all for creative outlets and are interesting to hear more about you and yours! Why did you start blogging? What inspired you to do it?

I started blogging five years ago because I wanted to express my thoughts and opinions on race and racism. It then transformed into an opportunity to connect with women through sharing my personal growth journey, being open and honest with myself and sharing that with my readers. As someone who loves to be in service of others, I find blogging is a way to do this that doesn’t drain me and allows me to be in control and limit how much of myself I give to others. So I almost use my blog as a form of self-care as well as self-expression. I was heavily inspired by the content creators who have been in the game for a long time, who were very open and honest about their journeys.

I used to just buy the same size all the time, then started a size down and up for certain items and the fit is so much better, it allows you to play around with your shape and how clothes fit you makes you feel different about your body!

This is amazing, it almost sounds like therapy. We are also so glad to hear that you love to serve others, it's such a beautiful character trait. Although it sounds like your blogging journey has been rewarding we are sure there were challenge along the way? What challenges have you faced?

I think I already knew that speaking on race and being vocal about the support of black-owned businesses would already make it ”difficult” to grow and be seen, I knew some may see it as controversial or radical, however, I know that race and being plus-sized does play a role in a lack of opportunities and it does make you feel invisible. As I am a blogger as a hobby instead of being a full-time thing I feel like I don’t experience many obstacles because I don't always go out and seek opportunities If I was to pitch more often I am sure I would see a difference in how people treat me.



It's actually sad that speaking out and being true to who you are naturally brings more challenges. Honestly we need more people with courage and resilience like you because 5 years later, look at you now! Keep thriving girl! Keep glowing!


At Asikara, we made a decision to instead of creating collections, focus more on custom clothing. The reason being that we recognise women come in all shapes and sizes, we want to celebrate that by dressing people according to their body type and not forcing people into stereotypes.


How have you learnt to embrace your curves? What are your styling do's & don'ts?

Such a good questions and something I have only recently learnt to do! I spent a lot of years hiding my body due to fear of being hyper-sexualised and also not feeling confident in my body, I didn't want any attention for the ”wrong reasons” even though this is just my body, it’s not my problem, it is an issue with how people see me and not so much how God created me. 


A huge styling do is to pick sizes based on fit and not based on the size along, I used to just buy the same size all the time, then started a size down and up for certain items and the fit is so much better, it allows you to play around with your shape and how clothes fit you makes you feel different about your body.



Black women within the body positive and body confident space definitely helped me embrace my body more, I think surrounding yourself around people who say positive things about their body makes you see the positives to your body, we know misery loves company so being around people regardless of size that constantly speaks negatively about their bodies makes it really difficult to feel anything other than negative when it comes to your own body. 


Also telling myself that if I wasn’t going to do anything at the moment to change how I look, then I need to embrace it, it is so freeing to accept and love your body what it does instead of what it doesn't look like. Remind yourself that people tell you that you give them the best hugs, remind yourself that your body still allows you to do everything that you enjoy to do. Focus on the positives, because focusing on the negatives and doing nothing about it leads to destructive thoughts and actions. 


Saabirah's Styling Tips

  • Choose clothes based on the fit not the size - you are not one size and one size does not fit all

  • Understand that there is not an issue with who God created you to be, the issue is with how people see you - that sounds like a them problem!

  • Surround yourself with positive people who build you up

  • Embrace who you are and if you don't like who you are, you have the power to change it (,If you want to).


All of these tips put a huge smile on my face, you are beautiful please don't let anyone tell you otherwise. What would you say has been your biggest achievement to date?

My biggest achievement to date was hosting a workshop for 10 women and having them make their own multi-purpose hair/body cream and sharing my knowledge on natural hair care. Being paid to do something like this was very affirming, knowing that a Queen following my Instagram recommended to her friend for an opportunity like this lets me know I am exactly where I need to be and doing what I need to do. It was super affirming and encouraging, I loved it and look forward to more of these experiences. 


Focus on the positives, because focusing on the negatives and doing nothing about it leads to destructive thoughts and actions. 


YES QUEEN! This is what it's all about! Congratulations. You sound like you know what you're doing with your kinks and curls if you're making your own products so tell us more - How has your natural hair journey been?

I am constantly learning about my hair, I felt like I found my flow then everything just went left lol. I think my natural hair journey has taught me patience. My biggest highs were learning how to retain moisture in my hair, I always felt like I had dry hair, so learning how to get that moisture in and keep it in has been a lifesaver. I wouldn't say it is a fail as the length doesn't equate to health but I would say I am currently looking to grow my hair and retain length. 

Please teach us, we will have to have you back for a guest blogger hair post...What methods of protective styling do you use?

I love a headwrap when I don't want to style my hair lol. I love braids for practical reasons. I wake up early for work so If I have my hair in a protective style I know I don't have to worry about my hair for the week, which is great! 


Headwraps are a definite cover up for some crazy things. We have a great hack for protective styling on our Youtube Channel. 2020 has been a weird one but what are your goals nonetheless?

I want to continue growing personally and professionally, continuing discovering myself and my purpose and I want to continue creating great content. A major goal for this year is to be in a better suited career and I want to start writing a book. 


Looks like 2020 is your year! Go get 'em girl! How has lockdown been for you?

Whewwww child.

I am someone who enjoys spending time with myself I have been away by myself, been to a concert by myself, I eat by myself I do it all lol, but this time away from distractions and being busy all the time has meant I had to face all the things I had been avoiding which haven't been fun as you can imagine. As a result though, I now have a different relationship with myself and it has been interesting. I think this time has confirmed that therapy is a must, just to be able to be the best version of myself that extra help is needed.


I'm so glad you have allowed this pandemic to give you time to grow, it's inspiring. We always ask, what's one thing our readers would be surprised to hear about you?

I have not studied creative writing a outside of the mandatory English lessons we had at school. I never thought I would be a writer let alone be in a position where writing a book is a goal I have. I wanted to be a midwife for a few years of my life, so a total shift in interests now. 

When your book is ready, let us know because we want to be the first to share it! Lastly is there any tip you can leave with us?

It's okay to put yourself and wellbeing first. You really do have to make sure you are good before anyone else or anything else can make you feel good, they should be additions and not the sole purpose of your happiness. Also, it is important that we know that all of our voices are valuable, all of our stories are valuable if you have been silencing yourself, use your voice because someone will resonate with it, trust and believe that. 



Thank you so much for sharing that with us, this has been so rewarding. We look forward to hearing from you again in the near future. How can we keep in touch with you?

It's okay to put yourself and wellbeing first. You really do have to make sure you are good before anyone else or anything else can make you feel good, they should be additions and not the sole purpose of your happiness. Also, it is important that we know that all of our voices are valuable, all of our stories are valuable if you have been silencing yourself, use your voice because someone will resonate with it, trust and believe that. 


Follow me @saabirahlawrence on Instagram and on Facebook. Also check out my blog www.saabirahlawrence.com

Make sure you keep up to date with this amazing woman, she's making movements! We love featuring amazing individuals like her, comment below others you'd like us to feature on our page.


Oh and here's the natural hair hack we told you about...